Welcome to Coffee Pines & Designs a blog created by an interior designer, a person working on self love, an artist and a foodie. My name is Kirsten and all of those people are me. Far more importantly, I am a wife and mother of two daughters. I am blessed to have those titles, but upon moving to Northern Minnesota in 2011 I lost a little bit of myself. This is my outlet to regain my creative spirit and share my passions. Thank you for coming along with me on this journey!
Is it fall or winter? This weekend it happens to be both. We have reached our peak fall colors. Vibrant orange and gold surrounds us in all directions in Northern Minnesota. However, snow has fallen on and off for the last 24 hours. As the temperatures drop again this evening it is accumulating on the ground. No matter how pretty it is, it’s too early if you ask most of us!
I visited Just Dandy this afternoon for one of their Sip and Shop events. Of course I left with one of her wonderful smelling lotions and some scented melting wax. Wildflower Farm had her baked goodies there for sale. I picked up a loaf of her Roasted Garlic Bread which was the perfect addition to our Chicken Paprikash dinner. The recipe was out of Molly Yeh’s cookbook, Molly on the Range. I followed her recipe with a couple of changes. Rather than cooking it on the stove I dumped all the ingredients into a crock pot, minus the cream, and let it cook all afternoon. Once the chicken was cooked through I shredded it and placed it on top of *egg noodles. This is definitely a fall-ish recipe and one I will make again. After all, it was Stella approved!
*Egg noodles cooked in chicken broth. Once cooked I added some onion powder and Parmesan cheese.
Here I will list the books that I read in 2019. Most of them I will provide a link to my book review. Beware, if you read the review, it may give away what happens in the book. Read with caution *smile*
Three Wishes, Liane Moriarty
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Still Alice, Lisa Genova
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Of Mess and Moxie, Jen Hatmaker
Coffee Pines & Designs has many posts referencing this book.
Friendly Deceit, L.V. Hope
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The Fringe Hours, Jessica N. Turner
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Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert
Coffee Pines & Designs book reviews:
Dare to Lead by Brene Brown
Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst
The House Pinterest Built by Diane Keaton
The Bridal Quartet by Nora Roberts
Educated by Tara Westover
Still in the Game by Devon Still
From Scratch by Tembi Locke
Daisy Jones and the Six by Taylor Jenkins Reid
Soul Series by Kennedy Ryan
Summer of ’69 by Elin Hildebrand
Hoops Series by Kennedy Ryan
Where the Crawdads Sing by Delia Owens
A group of us got together last weekend at the Holiday Inn in Baxter, MN. 3 mommas and 5 littles (who are not really little any longer). We crammed ourselves into a suite and spent 24 hours at the fun indoor water park. Even the adults had a grand time screaming down the slides and hanging out in the “river”. The girls and I can not wait to go back with T. We were all exhausted by the end of the evening. I think we all crashed by 10:00 that evening.
We brought an abundance of veggies to snack on with dip and hummus. We actually did a number on those veggies prior to eating pizza and dessert *smile* however we still had plenty of leftover carrots and celery. With the temperatures dipping low the last couple of weeks I have been craving soup. I love my Vitamix in the summer for breakfast and protein smoothies, but when fall creeps in, I am all about the frothy soups it can whip up in seconds. The Vitamix recipes call for blending the ingredients for at least 7 minutes as it will heat the soup to a temp that you would want to eat soup at. However, I purée the ingredients and then transfer them over to a kettle and simmer on the stove.
Here is a spin on the Vitamix Cream of Celery Soup
2 1/2 cups chicken broth
1/2 of a small onion
4 cups chopped celery
1/3 cup chopped carrot
1 cooked sweet potato
1 garlic clove
1/2 teaspoon pepper
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup Half and half
Place all ingredients in Vitamix, blend until puréed. Simmer over low heat until desired temperature is reached.
Gingered Carrot Orange Soup is amazing too! And check out the color, how beautiful is that?
What would summer be without a no-nonsense romantic beach read? Or 3? Or 6? Kennedy Ryan’s Grip Series was followed by the Soul Series. Amazon offers these books for free on their Kindle App. Kennedy Ryan traps you into Rhyson and Kai’s characters with such visual detail. It is difficult to escape their world to go back to your own reality. You may as well take a couple of days off of work, or block a weekend and leap into their soundtrack complete with lust, life lessons and love.
Ghost- Ella Henderson
Somewhere Only We Know- Keane
Lost Stars- Adam Levine
Crash Into Me- Dave Matthews and
V.3005- Childish Gambino
See You Again- Wiz Khalifa
Adventure of a Lifetime- Coldplay
Fly Before You Fall- Cynthia Erivo
Mistakes- Andra Day
Believe- Mumford and Sons
It Will Rain- Bruno Mars
Half Crazy- Musiq Soulchild
Piece by Piece- Kelly Clarkson
Girl on Fire- Alice Keys
Lay Me Down- Sam Smith
Hymn for the Weekend- Coldplay
Our Love Will Survive- Wild Belle
Happy Birthday- Kygo
Call Me When You Get This- Corrine Bailey Rae
Stitches- Shawn Mendes
Find this playlist on Spotify.
Bookclubs galore! Everyone and their mama has a bookclub these days. Reese Witherspoon’s Bookclub listed Daisy Jones and the Six as one of their books. What a wonderful and unique pick on their end. Taylor Jenkins Reid is a phenomenal writer who took a fun approach to her writing style for this book. It was as if the main character interviewed band members from the fictional band, Daisy Jones and The Six, to create a biography of their music journey in the 1970’s. I loved the surprise at the end which lead the reader to find out who was conducting the interviews. I long for a band to put music to the song lyrics and create a true soundtrack to the novel. Until then, enjoy the playlist below which can be found on Spotify.
Poison and Wine- The Civil Wars
Silver Springs- Fleetwood Mac
Shake it Out- Florence and the Machine
American Girl- Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers
Holy Water- Jim and Sam
Because the Night- Patti Smith
Sweet Creature- Harry Styles
Our House- Crosby, Stills, Nash, and Young
Emmylou- First Aid Kit
Paid-Grace Potter and the Nocturnals
6th grade? 7th grade? Warren G playing on my stereo. My dad sticks his head in my room and says “don’t let your mom hear you listening to this stuff”. He smirks and closes my door. Goodie Two Shoes. Those words could describe me. Yet, gangsta rap was my thing. Sadly I can not recall if Warren G was my first rap cd. Bone Thugs n Harmony maybe? 2 Pac posters lined my bedroom walls in high school. Many hours were spent at Musicland, the music store at the mall. Cd singles were bought and if I couldn’t afford the cd I would buy the cassette tape. This was during a time that kids were not “carded” for cd’s that had a Parental Advisory: Explicit Lyrics label on it. The Source and XXL magazines provided me with more “posters” to tape to my walls. I was devistated when 2 Pac died.
Thanks to the podcast, Sorta Awesome with Meg Tietz, episode 203, I was introduced to the writing of Kennedy Ryan. Meg and Anna Hithersay discussed Kennedy’s trilogy Flow, Grip and Still (free on amazon Kindle). An interracial love story between Grip and Bristol. Grip is a brilliantly smart African American rapper who grew up in Compton and Bristol is the over privileged and hard working white girl from NYC. She fights the electric pull she has with him, not because of his race, but because he is her brother’s best friend. Eventually love wins and they can not deny their affection any longer. The story ebbs and flows through their intoxicating connection and the heart wrenching doubts that come from their loved ones and fans. The third book brings deeper levels of emotion as they prepare to grow their family with the addition of children.
Long gone are the days southern Cali was the place for me. The daydreams floated away decades ago where 2 Pac from Poetic Justice was meant for me, not Janet Jackson. This book brought smiles to my face. Just a white girl surrounded by her posters of 1990’s rap moguls. To quote Lin-Manuel Miranda, “love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love, cannot be killed or swept aside”.
Grip Flow and Still soundtrack
Fallin’ Alicia Keys
California Love, 2 Pac
Juicy- The Notorious B.I.G.
U.N.I.T.Y.- Queen Latifah
Nobody- Keith Sweat
I Belong To You- Lenny Kravitz
Live Your Life- T.I. & Rihanna
You Don’t Own Me- Grace & G Eazy
Love on the Brain- Rihanna
So in Love- Jill Scott & Anthony Hamilton
At My Best- Machine Gun Kelly
Until the End of Time- 2 Pac
Tell me What We’re Gonna Do Now- Joss Stone & Common
Pretty Bird- Jhene Akko, Common
Give Me Love- Ed Sheehan
Thug Luv- Bone Thugs N Harmony & 2 Pac
Into You- Fabolous & Tamia
Dear Mama- 2 Pac
SupaStar- Floetry & Common
Runnin’- Naughty Boy & Beyoncé
Feeling Good- Nina Simone
You Are the Best Thing- Ray LaMontagne
Let’s Hurt Tonight- OneRepublic
My Block- 2 Pac
*you can find on my Spotify
From Scratch, a love story and a memoir. Tembi, the author, shares her story of her very own three marriages. Three marriages to the same person. What a way to reflect on their journey. It was the marriage they had as a newly married couple, the marriage they had as he fought cancer and the marriage after he sadly passed away. Of course I fell for their love story. Beautiful American girl meets hot Italian boy, they fall in love with one another and he moves to the states to be with her. Let the gut wrenching string of events begin. His family won’t accept her and won’t attend the wedding since she is not Italian. The story carries on and they have a beautiful wedding. His cancer diagnosis comes along. She can’t get pregnant. There is hope. His cancer treatment works. They adopt a little girl. And Then, horrible reality strikes again as the cancer returns. This is where her memoir takes shape. Her story is not only about her life with Saro but, how with time and patience, his family accepts her into theirs. They come together in love during his final days. Tembi and her mother in law grow stronger and stronger together as they cope with losing their loved one. Nonna fully accepts Tembi and her granddaughter. A love story in its own. Love wins. It always wins. What a theme.
Once in awhile I have to travel for work. Two weeks ago I was listening to an interview with Devon Still on Rachel Hollis’ Rise podcast. “We” watch a lot of football on TV but usually there is a book in my hand and the game is just background noise to me. I could hardly tell you who the main players are on our very own MN Vikings, so I can say I had no idea who Devon Still was.
As Rachel interviewed Devon I quickly wished the main topic discussed was football rather than the topic of choice. His daughter had been diagnosed with cancer at the young age of 4. Can you imagine? I sure can not. It makes me sick to my stomach, my head wants to spin and I literally feel like my breath is taken away.
Why did this interview pull me towards listening to his whole story in his book Still in the Game? That I can not tell you. I downloaded the book for my drive home and then could not stop listening to his voice share the miraculous recovery little Leah had. Their faith in God and drive to fight brought tears to my eyes and softened my soul as their journey carried on. I started the story with a shortness of breath as I thought of the dreadful news shared to their family and when the cancer disappeared I saw hope again. Hope that if this ever happened to me and one of my girls, I would fight strongly as they did. I would fight Leah Strong.
There are times I feel like I need stories like this to show me how blessed I am and to show me how great God is.
Educated. What an intense book written by Tara Westover. To know that this incredible human being went from limited school education and a shocking up bringing to this intelligent and powerful woman gives one hope. Hope that they can do anything with the right self determination, resources and people’s support.
Mormon is a word I am familiar with. The way a Mormon lives I am not. Besides the concept that a man may marry more than one wife and that they believe in Jesus, I have not learned much about this way of living. Heck, my own Christian beliefs is something I struggle with daily and am continuously learning about. I have heard brief stories similar to Tara’s upbringing, but that is key. They were brief stories mentioned on the news. I realize that not all Mormon’s are like Tara’s family. With a quick Google search, I learned that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saint’s stems off from Mormonism.
Much like Tara starts her book in her Author’s Note, this post is not about Mormonism. Or my lack of knowing what the religion is about. This post about the reaction the book brought to my heart and my mind.
Tara’s relationship with her family is millions of miles from the relationship I have with my family.
Wait. I want to delete that line. But I can’t. That was my first thought. Within seconds I realize that is not the case. In the beginning she loves her family. She deeply loves her parents and siblings. She loves them in the end too, but the relationships change. She loves them as I love my family. The main difference is that I still respect my family being an adult where I question her respect for some of them. Her parents guided her the way they knew how just as mine did. They were hard working individuals like mine. They taught her to be respectful as mine did. What they did not do was keep her safe like mine did. They did not trust her words like mine did and do.
The relationship Tara had with her mom was the most difficult for me. I imagine it was the hardest for her too. It was as if Tara’s mom was trying to make everyone happy. I think as a mom this is a natural tendency. She would agree with all parties to keep the peace. As Tara got older this caused confusion for her. It caused her to question the support she had from her mom when her mom said one thing to her and then differed her opinion on the subject when she commented another way in front of her husband. As a daughter one looks up to guidance from her mom. She had a strong pull to do so, but as Tara got older she had realizations that caused her to doubt her mom. Her mom was dedicated to her husband, as many Christians are, and did not stray from backing up her husband on all accounts. All accounts meaning the ones that did not keep Tara’s well being and safety in check. Maybe, some would read this and disagree. Tara’s father, and mother maybe, believed that they were following God’s plan.
The education Tara received is from one extreme to the other. The schooling she received is not taken for granted. That is clear in her memoir. It is well deserved. The elbow grease it took for her to pass the ACT and to pass her initial college classes is unfathomable. The education she received on life gave her perspective that most others would never be able to see. They may try to study it, they may try to understand it, they may try to dissect it, but she lived it. The challenges she went through taught her love, hard work, empathy, perspective, fear, intuition, self survival and the list could go on.
How does one trust in relationships after living a life like Tara’s? God teaches us to forgive. Her parents want her to forgive her brother Shawn. I am uncertain I could do it with the games and torture he put her through. Disease or not, he did not get the help he needed. My heart hurts for Tara. She continuously went home in search of her family’s support. At times she would get doses of it, but in the end she risked her life to come home. That is unfair and not the way God intends for us to live. I like to think that if Shawn received the help he needed that there could have been a possibility of her having the life she wanted and deserved as well as the love from her family. A situation full of manipulation.
For some reason this book makes me want to research this culture, but I am most certain it would make me angry. I can put myself in many people’s shoes and can understand a lot. This? Not so much. I understand 100% why this book has made multiple Best of Lists.
It’s been awhile since I wrote a post. That doesn’t mean I have not been reflecting though! What has come always from the last month? Positive change is not easy. I have known this and have had it in the back of my mind for the last few years but goodness has it been at the forefront lately. Whether it is personal or business, the mind or the soul, or the relationships we have with those that we live near and dear to everyday.
I had the opportunity to be in leadership class for the past nine months through Sanford. It was titled Leading for Results. Most of us thought it would be how to direct staff and projects to get better results. The class was aimed at personal development. Making us stronger individuals would make us better leaders. Better leaders make our teams better. The class fit perfectly with what I was trying to do. It taught me new things. It confirmed what I had been reading. Some of the teachings I had already implemented. Some got moved up on my list of priorities. Some were ideas I had not heard of and were added to my list. The great thing about this class was I could apply these teachings to my personal life.
I took a break from my monthly goals. It was much needed. I was overwhelmed by them which tells me I need to evaluate them. I want to do too much. I have always been that way. Good things take time!
May did bring a lot of accomplishments:
◦ Work trip to San Diego and attended a Ritz Carlton workshop
◦ Read 4 Nora Roberts books
◦ Joined Weight Watchers and am seeing slow progress (strong and fit is what I am aiming for- moderation)
◦ Presented a presentation for Leading for Results
◦ I am becoming a better version of the wife I aim to be
◦ Working out 5-7 days a week
◦ Trying new recipes